Friday, February 7, 2020

Fat Friday: It's Okay to Love Your Body, But...

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The following is a reply to Ragen Chastain's post about the kind of jackasses who defy the no weight loss talk rule in fat acceptance spaces.

“It’s ok to love your body but…”
Whenever anyone begins a sentence with that chestnut, I just know that I’m going to want to push them in front of a bus. Or more likely a tractor, since I live out in the middle of nowhere.

Furthermore, the idea of "loving my body" is such a foreign concept to me that you might as well be telling me to go dance on Jupiter. I can't imagine loving my body. It's a fight for me to even be neutral towards my body. 

I have to fight all the negative messages about my body several times a day every day and probably will for the rest of my life. Forget "loving" my body. I would be happy to be able to just ACCEPT my damn body and move on. But jerks who begin sentences with "it's okay to love your body, but..." do their level best every day to make sure that I will never even be allowed to just accept mine.

Fat and Ornery
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Sly and Snarky
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  1. The problem with belly flap (of which I am the not so proud possessor of too much!) sadly holds other things besides fat cells.

    But adipose(FAT) cells release all the other molecules they've hoarded, too. That includes key hormones like estrogen, along with fat-soluble vitamins and any organic pollutants that found their way into your bloodstream as you gained weight.

    Female body fat actually produces some of its own estrogen in addition to storing it, and the more adipose tissue a person has, the more estrogen they’re exposed to. This is why being overweight puts you at an increased risk of getting breast cancer ... and it doesn't do my hernia any good either!

    So when we lost weight, we are detoxifying our bodies too!

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    1. Respectfully, I will refer you to Ragen's website, to the Health at Every Size website and to
      Correlation is not causation. Having a larger body type is correlated with certain conditions but there is no proof that those conditions are caused by the adipose tissue. Many of the so-called "diseases of obesity" are, in fact, diseases of aging and one will find elderly people of all sizes with these conditions. Thin women get breast cancer too, and some women who are considered the epitome of female beauty end up opting for a mastectomy because of high risk of breast cancer. Angelina Jolie is a prime example of this.
      I spent 33 years trying to hate myself thin. It didn't work, in fact, every time I dieted, I ended up with the weight returning with friends. With all my endocrine problems, it is highly unlikely that I will ever be thin unless I do as my great grandmother did: develop a terminal disease such as acute myelogenous leukemia, drop from 300 pounds to 95 within the space of less than a year, and die. I refuse to buy into the lies and shaming perpetuated by diet culture any longer. The multi-billion dollar diet industry depends on these for survival. If there were a diet that actually worked long-term in more than 5% of the population, they would go out of business.
      Again, I refer you to the above websites. They are much better at debunking the myths about larger bodies than a non-scientist like myself can be.


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