Insecure Writers Support Group 7 May 2025

I got ahead of myself and forgot to include this in the initial post. Sorry!

http://www.insecurewriterssupportgroup.com

My webcam froze when my face was like this. 

Nothing else I include in this post will be this dumb.

Here's my first YouTube video!

https://youtu.be/MZCoUFmHsW4

How are you doing? Have you recently put yourself in a position where you know you can't return to a group? I did that. You can hear all about it in my first YouTube video!

May 7 question - Some common fears writers share are rejection, failure, success, and lack of talent or ability. What are your greatest fears as a writer? How do you manage them?

Before we get started, here is your content warning.

I cuss. A lot.

If you’re sensitive about that, the back arrow is your best pal.

I have all those aforementioned fears.

I’m not managing them very fucking well, thank you very much!

You may wonder why the hell someone who looks like me would share a picture of myself without a bag over my head. The reason I am sharing my less than glamorous face with the world without more cover-up than a little foundation to prevent me from looking dead and to tone down the appearance of my rosacea flare-up is because music is better when ugly people are making it.

"I didn't know you were a musician, Ornery."

It's an allegory, Reader. Let me explain.

I don’t think people are ugly until they act ugly. People are just kind of people-looking. Even me, although it's hard to see myself that way. I'm so used to thinking of myself as hideous, even though I'm just plain-looking. I look like a European peasant with my round face and stocky body. There's nothing wrong with that. 

I'm sick and tired of people thinking it's okay to make other people feel bad about themselves. 

This person is fat! 

So what? 

That person has crooked teeth and a big nose! 

Who cares? 

I find this person unattractive! 

That sounds like a "you" problem." 

If you don't find someone attractive, chances are no-one is forcing you to date them, so what the hell difference does it make? Be a damn adult about it.

Anyway...

I'm having to take a lot more time than I would like to work on my bullshit and on trying to be a little more patient with myself. I'm not a patient person by nature. 

One thing I've learned the hard way is I don't have to do All The Things. Trying to do All The Things just burns me out. I think the fact that I have trouble being selective may be tied to my ADHD. 

My keyboard is doing a thing. It is not a thing I like. So, I think I will end this post here. 

That's how I'm doing. 

Ornery Owl Has Spoken

Free use image by Prawny on Pixabay

"Don't worry about it, Ornery. I may not always understand what yer sayin', but I always like talkin' to ya over a cup of coffee or tea, or maybe a swig o' moonshine."

"Thanks, Beaks. I'll pass on the white lightning, but I could go for a latte."

Soundtrack of a Misfit #rabtbooktours

 

Adventures in ADD & Addiction

Memoir

 

This is a coming-of-age saga that highlights the perils and peaks of living with misdiagnosed ADHD, learning disabilities, dysfunctional family dynamics and rock and roll. It's equal parts funny and frenetic. The author weaves in the way she documents periods of her life through eclectic music, as she takes you along with her on bittersweet, misadventures. Get lost everywhere (GPS wasn't a thing yet), including in Jamaica, Israel, and Canada and learn what it's like to grow up missing social cues, not getting sarcasm, misplacing and replacing entire wardrobes, and navigating life smart but spacey.

About the Author

Rachel Wills is a Licensed Professional Counselor who specializes in working with adults with ADHD and co-occurring disorders. After living on both coasts' multiple times, she returned to her home state of Maryland and set down roots. She's active in her local long-term recovery community, synagogue and neighborhood. However, she used to admittedly, be 'all over the place' and couldn't choose just one profession and stick with it if her life depended on it, which it did. Ms. Wills was told by a child psychologist that the severity of her 'minimal brain dysfunction' (now commonly referred to as ADHD) would preclude her going to college. Yet, she completed two vastly different graduate school programs (the first while backpacking throughout the country and living in a consensus-based community).

Her constant sense of feeling 'different' and 'other-than' which once led her to abuse substances and job hop became her greatest asset - empathy. Today, Ms. Wills is proud to call herself a wildflower among orderly roses. She's still not the most organized but is fervent about helping others learn to become their own best advocate and embrace themselves for who they are.

 

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Shame-Free ADHD and Anxiety Book Blitz #rabtbooktours

Mindfulness for the Rest of Us

Self-Help

Date Published: October 2022

 

  

Change Without Shame

 

Exhausted by trying to be someone you are not?

 Overwhelmed?

Learn how to accept yourself as you actually are.

Change the story you tell yourself--for good.

What Makes This Book Different

Mindfulness can be very hard for people who deal with ADHD and other big feelings. This book is packed with practical tips and examples to help you start where you are. Make realistic change by learning how to be in the present moment. There are many ways to be mindful--and there are many ways to be you.

About the Author

Rebecca Lavine, MTS, MSW, LICSW, is a solution-focused therapist and coach. Her unique four step “Good Changes” approach has helped empower countless individuals to be more stable, positive and connected to themselves and others.

Rebecca holds degrees from Harvard University and Boston University. She has over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people with anxiety, depression and ADHD.

The Good Changes process is deeply collaborative and focused on your personal needs and goals. It helps you pinpoint what can change--for good.

 

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